By: Joshua Goh
You don't have to be a movie star look-alike to sizzle and dazzle the opposite sex. All you need is a genuine sweet looking smile plus a few irresistible flirting tips.
1. For women, we preen or groom ourselves subconsciously when we are attracted to someone – by smoothing down our hair or clothes, checking our lipstick, or straightening a tie. Combine your grooming gesture with a smile and a gaze. You can also toss your hair to one side – a combination 1-2 punch of preening and a flash of neck.
2. A genuine, friendly smile is you’re most powerful. Behavior experts agree that a smile makes you more attractive and approachable. Guys, if a woman lock eyes and smiles with you three or more times in an evening, you have been given an unmistakably clear signal that she's interested. Make your move, if you don't, somebody else will.
3. Gaze the eyes with the person you're flirting with for a full five to six seconds, smile and then drop your fix. Do this at least three times in a ten to fifteen-minute period. Your target needs to know you are flirting with him; making eye contact is a universal signal of openness.
4. One of the more successful flirting techniques a woman can employ is to expose her neck. A head tilt, the classic hair flip, or the over-the-shoulder glance attracts men’s attention, exposes your neck, and gives you the opportunity to lock eyes. The over-the-shoulder move is extra-effective because it's sexy and sends a signal to your target that they are worth a second look.
5. Members of both sexes are subconsciously attracted to red, moist lips because they signal youth, sex and fertility. Red also increases a man's heart rate. How to capitalize on it? Wearing a red lipstick gives women’s lips not only a youthful color but also a more obvious smile and whiter teeth. Using a super-shiny lip gloss makes your lips look moist and kissable. Men or women should lick their lips subtly (you don't want to look like you're trying out for a porno flick) or bite the lower lip – both are extremely effective flirting behaviors.
6. Men should stand tall with the shoulders pulled back and squared; women are biologically attracted to more dominant men. Feel free to take up some space.
7. For women, crossing and uncrossing their legs is a surefire flirting technique, especially if you're wearing high heels. A woman crossing her legs appears seductive to men and it makes them desire to see more. Slipping the heel out of your shoe and dangling it on your toes is another trick. The arch of a foot sends a sexual message and mimics a woman's curves, and makes a man's heart race.
8. Once you and your flirting target start talking, the next step is to intensify the attraction. How? Smile and maintain eye contact, focus all of your attention on what they say. No one is more attractive than someone who gives you an undivided attention. Employ the nod and head tilt techniques. Smiling and laughing are crucial at this point – it the quickly puts the other person at ease. Making low-level contact by brushing the shoulder or elbow is another effective flirting technique.
9. People mirror each other’s body language – gestures, voice volume, posture, etc when they are attracted. Very subtly mirror your flirting target's behavior – if she leans forward, lean forward; if he scratches his head, scratch your head. When you mirror someone's behavior, they'll begin to feel, think and believe as though the two of you are connected.
About The Author
Joshua Goh is dating & relationship expert, prolific writer and avid internet marketer. He is also passionate about human peak performance, golf, fitness and travelling. For more information on up-to-date dating reviews and litle tips & tricks, please visit http://www.cupidwave.com.
Friday, May 18, 2007
Tuesday, May 15, 2007
Soul Mate or No Soul Mate
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By: Ian Parker
Let’s face it, dating is tough. It’s even tougher when you have to get past the social hurdles of being gay. No matter what, you must always remember that it’s your first priority to be true to yourself and make sure you’re with the person you’re seeing for the right reasons. If you don’t look out for yourself, no one else will.
Some people go through life thinking that they will never find “The One.” So they settle. They settle for abusive relationships, selfish lovers, cheaters, and liars – just because they don’t want to be alone. They overlook the fact that sometimes being alone for a while is the best thing. Being alone gives you the opportunity to contemplate and decide what you’re looking for, where you want to look for it, and ultimately, where you want to be five or ten years down the road.
I’m not saying that you can plan out any relationship and follow each step of it like a schedule. The truth is, you never know what is going to happen. But if you know just a little bit of what you want out of a relationship, it will only be a benefit to you and the person you’re seeing. Nothing is worse than being with someone who doesn’t know what they want.
That being said, here are some things you ought to consider before giving your heart – your most precious possession – away.
1. Never settle for someone who is selfish. True, we are all selfish in some way or another; but in the grand scheme of things, you’ll want to be with someone who considers your feelings before acting. When you are working 3 jobs, and set aside a long-awaited Saturday night to spend with your loved one, you don’t expect them to go out, get drunk, and fall asleep before you get to their house. That is selfish. Choose someone who puts your feelings above and beyond everything else. “The One” will be waiting for you with a rose.
2. Speaking of roses, be sure to choose someone who is generous and thoughtful – someone who will surprise you with flowers or a nice dinner when you are tired and had a miserable day. They don’t have to do it all the time, but once in a while, to show they care makes all the difference in a relationship.
3. Never settle for someone who is judgmental of others. The more tolerant a person is of others, the more tolerant they will be of you.
4. Never settle for someone who drinks too much or takes drugs. They will never change.
5. Never settle for someone who puts you down and makes you feel unimportant. This person does not care about your feelings. Mistreating you gives them a sense of power. Avoid this person like the plague. If you are involved with them already, tell them to take a hike – even if it is the hardest thing you ever had to do. You’ll thank yourself one day when you do meet “The One.”
6. Never settle for someone who doesn’t know how to laugh and have fun, even in the most trying situations. Someone who can turn a rotten time into the best time is worthy of your time and love.
7. Never settle for someone who leaves you hanging about the future. If they can’t commit to you now, chances are they won’t be committing to you anytime soon. Don’t torture yourself chasing them around. You’ll be wasting your time.
8. Choose someone who helps you be the best person you can be. Be with someone who gives you good advice, and wants you to succeed.
9. Do not be with someone who is jealous – whether they are jealous of your relationships with your friends, or don’t trust you to go out without them there. Without trust, a relationship has no foundation.
10. Choose someone with a big heart, who will love you no matter what you do.
Try to keep these things in mind the next time you make a decision about love. More often than not, you will be grateful that you did.
About The Author
Ian Parker writes for Dr Dating - If you are single and looking for love then this is the site for you. Articles, Reviews and Links to the best sites on the Internet and the DrDating Forum – a forum for people looking for help in love, relationships and dating.
Does a sexy & feminine woman make a man wild and crazy?
By: Py Kim Conant
As part of my research, I asked both men and women what makes a woman feminine and sexy. I simply asked respondents what they felt made a woman feminine and sexy.
Here are some of their responses:
“She is receptive to a man’s suggestions and plans.”
“The flirting, the teasing, the suggestion.”
“She is comfortable being sexually provocative in her appearance.”
“She is outrageous and sexy on the outside and inside.”
“She isn’t afraid of public affection.”
“She has a voyeuristic side to her.”
“She uses a few explicit words in the heat of passion.”
“She knows what pleases a man and herself.”
“She has a way of carrying herself.”
“She drips with sexuality.”
“She smells good, looks good, and sounds good.”
“She is appreciative of whatever I do.”
“It’s her way of talking to you or looking at you.”
“It’s her smile.”
“She uses her eyes to connect to you.”
“She shows her emotions.”
“She has poise.”
“She laughs freely and loudly and enjoys life.”
“She satisfies her man’s fantasies.”
“She accepts me for who I am.”
“She doesn’t take life too seriously.”
“She’s a little bit playful.”
“She is confident in her beauty.”
“She is beautiful and exciting to look at.”
“She is a ferocious feline in bed.”
“She tells me what she likes.”
“She gets excited [sexually].”
“She never pushes me away [sexually].”
“She never uses sex for power.”
“She is shy and naïve outside; inside, she has a huge sexual desire.”
“She is sexual, sensual, and erotic.”
“Her clothing slightly reveals some of her body.”
“She gives a hint of what lies underneath her clothes.”
“She is smolderingly sexy, but always classy, in public.”
“She is responsive to the slightest touch.”
About The Author
Py Kim Conant, the author of Sex Secrets of an American Geisha: How to Attract, Satisfy, and Keep Your Man, Hunter House Publishers. Looking for relationship, dating and sex tips? Visit Py’s website at http://www.AmericanGeishaHouse.com.
As part of my research, I asked both men and women what makes a woman feminine and sexy. I simply asked respondents what they felt made a woman feminine and sexy.
Here are some of their responses:
“She is receptive to a man’s suggestions and plans.”
“The flirting, the teasing, the suggestion.”
“She is comfortable being sexually provocative in her appearance.”
“She is outrageous and sexy on the outside and inside.”
“She isn’t afraid of public affection.”
“She has a voyeuristic side to her.”
“She uses a few explicit words in the heat of passion.”
“She knows what pleases a man and herself.”
“She has a way of carrying herself.”
“She drips with sexuality.”
“She smells good, looks good, and sounds good.”
“She is appreciative of whatever I do.”
“It’s her way of talking to you or looking at you.”
“It’s her smile.”
“She uses her eyes to connect to you.”
“She shows her emotions.”
“She has poise.”
“She laughs freely and loudly and enjoys life.”
“She satisfies her man’s fantasies.”
“She accepts me for who I am.”
“She doesn’t take life too seriously.”
“She’s a little bit playful.”
“She is confident in her beauty.”
“She is beautiful and exciting to look at.”
“She is a ferocious feline in bed.”
“She tells me what she likes.”
“She gets excited [sexually].”
“She never pushes me away [sexually].”
“She never uses sex for power.”
“She is shy and naïve outside; inside, she has a huge sexual desire.”
“She is sexual, sensual, and erotic.”
“Her clothing slightly reveals some of her body.”
“She gives a hint of what lies underneath her clothes.”
“She is smolderingly sexy, but always classy, in public.”
“She is responsive to the slightest touch.”
About The Author
Py Kim Conant, the author of Sex Secrets of an American Geisha: How to Attract, Satisfy, and Keep Your Man, Hunter House Publishers. Looking for relationship, dating and sex tips? Visit Py’s website at http://www.AmericanGeishaHouse.com.
Tuesday, March 27, 2007
Does Romance mean Sex
hello all,
Does ROMANCE MEANS SEX? or does Love + romance=Sex?
Of course not! NO NO NO! Sex is just sex (S= selfish, E= Enjoyment with X= Anything) but romance means a whole lot more things and it includes words and actions that both persons forming a relationship do together or to each other to show affection.
Romance is an action that contributes towards affections and actions by both parties that would make them become closer. It makes one or the other party FEELS SPECIAL. Romance can be the man holding a door open for the lady, show due respect, present her with a stalk or a bunch of flowers, send her/him a card, a box of choc to him/her, (men do love chocs too), kissing in the rain, surprises, fixing the kitchen sink, getting your hands dirty to fix the car, etc.
Romance can only fluorish if you allow it to come to you from the person whom you like. There must be 2 like minded person. After all, you need 2 hands to clap.
Rmance means Small thoughts and expressions, to show someone how special they are. It’s about the details, the effort taken for such nitty gritty stuff to brighten someone's life. Now, THAT is ROMANCE!
Everyday can be a romantic day. Eeryday can be Feb 14th. you need not wait for D-Day to send flowers or have this romantic feeling.
Women generally tend to have this pre-defined bullet points of how the partner should do to be romantic. she would be sorely disappointed when he fails several of the criterias or ALL of the criterias.
Romance can easily mean being there when you needed him the most, about giving emotional support, being a punching bag, a shoulder to cry on and lots more. What is the point of being romantic when he is not there when you needed him the most? RIGHT?
Most asian girls lament that their partner are less romantic compared to the westeners. Well, like we said earlier, if he is there for you when u needed him the most, now that is being romantic already. You must look below the surface of it all.
Advice for women: throw away that bullet points of yours and re-define romance. Give to receive. You need to act too by showing some small gestures to build that romance.
Advice for men: Be there when she needed you most, do not be stingy and buy some small gifts now and then to pamper her.
Well, Happy dating!
Does ROMANCE MEANS SEX? or does Love + romance=Sex?
Of course not! NO NO NO! Sex is just sex (S= selfish, E= Enjoyment with X= Anything) but romance means a whole lot more things and it includes words and actions that both persons forming a relationship do together or to each other to show affection.
Romance is an action that contributes towards affections and actions by both parties that would make them become closer. It makes one or the other party FEELS SPECIAL. Romance can be the man holding a door open for the lady, show due respect, present her with a stalk or a bunch of flowers, send her/him a card, a box of choc to him/her, (men do love chocs too), kissing in the rain, surprises, fixing the kitchen sink, getting your hands dirty to fix the car, etc.
Romance can only fluorish if you allow it to come to you from the person whom you like. There must be 2 like minded person. After all, you need 2 hands to clap.
Rmance means Small thoughts and expressions, to show someone how special they are. It’s about the details, the effort taken for such nitty gritty stuff to brighten someone's life. Now, THAT is ROMANCE!
Everyday can be a romantic day. Eeryday can be Feb 14th. you need not wait for D-Day to send flowers or have this romantic feeling.
Women generally tend to have this pre-defined bullet points of how the partner should do to be romantic. she would be sorely disappointed when he fails several of the criterias or ALL of the criterias.
Romance can easily mean being there when you needed him the most, about giving emotional support, being a punching bag, a shoulder to cry on and lots more. What is the point of being romantic when he is not there when you needed him the most? RIGHT?
Most asian girls lament that their partner are less romantic compared to the westeners. Well, like we said earlier, if he is there for you when u needed him the most, now that is being romantic already. You must look below the surface of it all.
Advice for women: throw away that bullet points of yours and re-define romance. Give to receive. You need to act too by showing some small gestures to build that romance.
Advice for men: Be there when she needed you most, do not be stingy and buy some small gifts now and then to pamper her.
Well, Happy dating!
What to do if he is late?
hi all,
A comment said that guys do not call back too soon so as not to sound pushy. well, here is our thought.
if he takes a few hours to return call, then take a few hours to pick up. Monkey see, monkey do. This will keep the relationship reciprocal and balanced.
Men do not want to seem too eager. Women need to be independent. and not too eager even if he is the last Male on this planet earth.
When you go out dating, if the guy is late for a 7 pm date, the woman could call at 7:15 to ask where he is. If he is on the way, then it is ok. You can call again by 7:30pm. Do not seem desperate. do not call every 5 mins. The good girl will call every 5 mins and still be nice and sweet to him. (even though deep down she thinks she could jump down his throat. *Smile)
The woman of the 21st century will ask by 7:30 if he is showing up, and tell him that if he is not showing up in 10 mins time, she is leaving to do her own stuff (even if she has no stuff to do) .
That will definitely make him appreciate his date more.
Happy Dating!
Cheers,
Speed dating Team
A comment said that guys do not call back too soon so as not to sound pushy. well, here is our thought.
if he takes a few hours to return call, then take a few hours to pick up. Monkey see, monkey do. This will keep the relationship reciprocal and balanced.
Men do not want to seem too eager. Women need to be independent. and not too eager even if he is the last Male on this planet earth.
When you go out dating, if the guy is late for a 7 pm date, the woman could call at 7:15 to ask where he is. If he is on the way, then it is ok. You can call again by 7:30pm. Do not seem desperate. do not call every 5 mins. The good girl will call every 5 mins and still be nice and sweet to him. (even though deep down she thinks she could jump down his throat. *Smile)
The woman of the 21st century will ask by 7:30 if he is showing up, and tell him that if he is not showing up in 10 mins time, she is leaving to do her own stuff (even if she has no stuff to do) .
That will definitely make him appreciate his date more.
Happy Dating!
Cheers,
Speed dating Team
Wednesday, February 28, 2007
To succeed in dating for the women of the 21st century
hello ladies,
You may just meet Mr. Right at any time. so look your best!
Never be too up front about yourself.
Never tell things which are confidential.
A enigmatic woman drives men wanting more ie. to know more about u.
Less is always more. Not clothing mind u but keeping your dates brief. not to worry if he never calls u thereafter. It only means that he is not interested in u. so, move on Dahlin!
Stay in shape at all times. Some men like fleshy women and some like tall and slender women. whichever it is, it is best to look lean and in shape.
Let your man foor the bill. if he wants to split the bill with u, u know what to DO ;) but u will still politely pay the bill.
Sex early in your dating game plan will ruin everything.
Never turn up early. It is a lady's perogative.right.
Never be too available when he wants you to be.
happy Dating!
You may just meet Mr. Right at any time. so look your best!
Never be too up front about yourself.
Never tell things which are confidential.
A enigmatic woman drives men wanting more ie. to know more about u.
Less is always more. Not clothing mind u but keeping your dates brief. not to worry if he never calls u thereafter. It only means that he is not interested in u. so, move on Dahlin!
Stay in shape at all times. Some men like fleshy women and some like tall and slender women. whichever it is, it is best to look lean and in shape.
Let your man foor the bill. if he wants to split the bill with u, u know what to DO ;) but u will still politely pay the bill.
Sex early in your dating game plan will ruin everything.
Never turn up early. It is a lady's perogative.right.
Never be too available when he wants you to be.
happy Dating!
Friday, February 23, 2007
Intellectual vs Physical attraction
hello all women,
Did u know that if a man is physically attracted to u at first glance or first meeting, the attraction may not sustain for a long time and may wear out once he finds out that both of u do not click "intellectually" or that u both may have different interests unless of course he wants a TROPHY GF!
To sustain the relationship for a longer period towards building a steady relationship and possibly towards marriage later, there must not only be intellectual but also physical attraction.
He will become more involved, available, and start pursuing u and u are no longer stuck with an unavailable or non-committal guy. It is fun to be chased and feel LOVED!
Did u know that if a man is physically attracted to u at first glance or first meeting, the attraction may not sustain for a long time and may wear out once he finds out that both of u do not click "intellectually" or that u both may have different interests unless of course he wants a TROPHY GF!
To sustain the relationship for a longer period towards building a steady relationship and possibly towards marriage later, there must not only be intellectual but also physical attraction.
He will become more involved, available, and start pursuing u and u are no longer stuck with an unavailable or non-committal guy. It is fun to be chased and feel LOVED!
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